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Re: Weight Frustrations — JTM Writes

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Re: Why Are Plus Size Clothes So Good, But Plus Size Maternity So Bad?

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Re: Anybody Else Frustrated With Their Career? Let's Discuss

jojo — Thu, 06 Aug 2020 22:23:21 -0000

I too am frustrated with my manager that sound like a lot like Andy. In my company the only way to try new things is for people to leave a role and then they offer that vacant role at a lower pay grade with old requirements.

Re: Anybody Else Frustrated With Their Career? Let's Discuss

ekwacillin — Thu, 16 Jul 2020 15:09:38 -0000

Hi Jareesa! I'm a new reader so am not coming into this with a ton of context. However, a couple things jumped out to me when I read this. First, you mention wanting to be promoted, but not what you want to be promoted TO. What is the next step, what energizes you, WHY do you want to be promoted? Most promotions are into roles that are fundamentally different in some way (e.g. managing vs. individual contributor, broadening your portfolio of responsibility, projects with more visibility / impact, etc.), so I am curious what you want to do next and does your leadership (taking your manager out of it since there's been so much turbulence there) have a clear understanding of your vision for your career? If they are clear and are not helping you make it happen, that would be pretty concerning. But if it's just "I want to be promoted" without a clear story of why and to what, I think it is harder for leaders to help.
Secondly, I think it's interesting that you feel regretful about overdelivering. That says a lot about your company's culture and that comment makes me think moving on would be the best thing. If your culture is telling you that being a high performer is not rewarded or recognized, I'm honestly not sure what you're supposed to do with that, as an employee. How do you craft a path in an environment where inputs (your efforts, expertise, contributions) don't lead to logical outputs (recognition, progression, financial rewards)? It sounds like the laws of "career physics" are not being followed and for me, I would want to move on rather than trying to make it work in that reality.
Sending supportive vibes your way...

Re: Anybody Else Frustrated With Their Career? Let's Discuss

Jubilance — Wed, 15 Jul 2020 19:25:40 -0000

It's SO subjective and very "I'd have a beer with him!" which is so frustrating!

Re: Anybody Else Frustrated With Their Career? Let's Discuss

Jubilance — Wed, 15 Jul 2020 19:25:05 -0000

I hate that "sit and wait" thing - like who has the time for that? I suspect my leadership wants to say that to me, but they haven't come out and said that yet.

I support several call centers as a data analyst - have you ever considered going into leadership? Or something adjacent, like Compliance or Quality? Or even Training? Those could be good avenues for you if you're interested in any of those paths.

Re: Anybody Else Frustrated With Their Career? Let's Discuss

Mimi Crowley — Wed, 15 Jul 2020 19:02:28 -0000

PS I too an frustrated

Re: Anybody Else Frustrated With Their Career? Let's Discuss

Mimi Crowley — Wed, 15 Jul 2020 19:01:46 -0000

There is so much cross pollination between your company and mine because both lack true talent assessments and clear criteria for promotion. So many places will keep at least a partial remote staff even when this is all over and more places offer family friendly policies than 10 years ago. Cast that net as wide as you can.

Re: Anybody Else Frustrated With Their Career? Let's Discuss

ZionsMama — Wed, 15 Jul 2020 16:27:31 -0000

I am very frustrated with my career. i have been in my current company for 5 years in august. i have applied for a few different positions and no bites over the years. i went to my HR manager and was basically told "sit and wait"....i work in a phone job and i'm sure you can imagine that being on the phone with people, rude and disrespectful people most of the time, for 5 years is so draining physically and emotionally. I want to do something different and productive. My problem is that in my entire career life i have been in call centers so i don't have a clue what else i can do. my degree is in a liberal fine art which the market is not very open for....all this to say i completely understand your frustration. i hope you are able to remote work and get paid what you deserve!

Re: 78. Shopping With Intention

jojo — Tue, 14 Jul 2020 20:33:40 -0000

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and your reading list :)
I miss going to the gym a lot and finally broke down and bought a trainer for my bike and subscribed CardioCast app for workouts. Many moons ago I bought a treadmill and after putting it together only to have it not work because of defective parts it quickly fell to the wayside and never got used. Needless to say I lost interest fast.

Re: 78. Shopping With Intention

Jenny — Fri, 10 Jul 2020 14:57:19 -0000

Ooooh, this is great. I've also been trying to direct my dollars away from corporations who don't align with my values (ugh, how shitty about Universal Standard, I also really liked them).

I don't have a line on black owned businesses that do leggings, but I've recently started using Miss Jessie's hair products (which is black female founded and owned as far as my research has shown- and bonus sold at Target!)

Re: Even More Corona-Related Thoughts

Amy March — Tue, 19 May 2020 12:47:23 -0000

I’m sheltering in place alone and thank you for acknowledging that as A Thing. It’s hard because I don’t want to be alone, don’t know when I can date again, and my job doesn’t require a ton of interaction. Also I live in a cute small downtown apartment because it’s easy to go out and do things and without that option it’s kinda sad.

Re: 67. A Profound Loss

LoriABurton — Fri, 24 Apr 2020 20:31:02 -0000

I will miss Yolanda more than words could ever say ... she loved you and all her nieces and nephews and YES!! she knew she was loved!!

Re: Do I Even Want This Space Anymore?

Jenny/Adventures Along the Way — Tue, 21 Apr 2020 00:31:01 -0000

I enjoy reading what you share too (and also got to know you originally through APW), but as someone with a blog I haven't updated in ages, well, I get it. I've been thinking about writing some more on it right now, but that's because I have more time and that was what was holding me back (for the most part).

A third possibility (beyond stopping completely or continuing as before) could be to write when you feel like writing. Or perhaps a goal of writing at a less frequent pace that aligns with what you have time for and what feels good to you at this time, in this busy season... I enjoy what you share, but I think this most important thing is that you enjoy it and that you feel that the time you spend writing aligns with your goals today. And thank you for what you've shared over the years! (Also, I've never commented either, but I am also commenting much less overall on the internet in public spaces than I have in past years. Not sure why...)

Re: Do I Even Want This Space Anymore?

Mon, 20 Apr 2020 14:36:58 -0000

Another reader, also chiming in. I, too, found you on APW and loved the links you shared. Also, first time commenting here (you're added on my blog reader, so I don't ever really directly click on your site). As a long time reader of APW, you were a breath of fresh air when you came so I was bummed when you left. Found out about your blog and was super excited and have been following since! I appreciate the diverse perspectives you share. For me, there's not too many other black female writers who share links that I can relate to. Also as a mom of two kids, I barely have time to go to the bathroom on my own, so how you find the time to write is admirable. Good luck with what you decide to next, but know that your writing and work is appreciated!

Re: Do I Even Want This Space Anymore?

AM_StPaul — Mon, 20 Apr 2020 13:36:37 -0000

I echo KK I found you through APW and I really love the links you put together every week. I don’t really comment because well the internet, but I really appreciate the effort you put in. However you are doing so much. I don’t have kids and I can’t even manage to update my blog once per month.
I will keep reading as long and you are writing and I will try to remember to Dow my appreciation through $ so you know people are reading and you are appreciated.

Re: Do I Even Want This Space Anymore?

KK — Mon, 20 Apr 2020 13:24:16 -0000

I found you through APW and The Raft Slack, and I read and enjoy all your posts! I really do appreciate the links you put together each week and the peek into your life and what's on your mind. But I totally understand how it would feel like writing into a vacuum... I mean, I've never commented before! Of course I can't answer for you if you should continue writing here, but I think it's worth asking yourself some questions about how would it be different writing for a journal that wouldn't be public. Would it be more personal and perhaps a better outlet? Would you be more or less likely to do as much writing as you want? Would it feel more or less like a chore than blogging? Would it be more stream of consciousness style and therefore not flexing your writing skills/muscles in the same way or would you feel free to take more risks and try new styles? Do you want to continue developing your writing skills and challenging yourself in 2020, or do you have other priorities this year?
I think it's more than ok for your goals and motivations to change from one year to the next. I appreciate your thoughtfulness and willingness to share your voice on the internet, and I will keep reading as long as you are writing :) Good luck!

Re: 65. Gratitude — JTM Writes

Mimi Crowley — Fri, 03 Apr 2020 15:56:57 -0000

Carol totally did it

Re: 63. Notes From Home — JTM Writes

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Re: 62. Adventures At Home

Mimi Crowley — Sat, 21 Mar 2020 10:39:23 -0000

Love these round ups.

Re: Thoughts on Coronavirus And Other Worries

InTheBurbs — Mon, 16 Mar 2020 17:31:38 -0000

Thank you for this. I am struggling. I am lucky to be able to work from home for as long as necessary, but as an extroverted introvert, it is going to be a long haul. Right now, the world is on hold for 2 weeks, but that is likely to be extended and I can't even go there right now. I am also in the midst of transitioning my ant-anxiety med, which adds a whole other layer. I am contemplating staying of Twitter and Facebook once the Iditarod Dog race finishes. Again - thanks for being here - I needed this today.

Re: 57. It's Still January?

Rebekah — Mon, 03 Feb 2020 16:39:25 -0000

I also loved The Good Place and am sad it's over, but This Is Us is still going, and Brooklyn 99 returns this week, with Outlander coming back the following week.
I'm hoping your last month of gestating goes well!

Re: 53. Hello 2020! — JTM Writes

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Re: 45. Wish List — JTM Writes

Phoebe — Tue, 12 Nov 2019 11:56:56 -0000

I have a running Amazon list too! It helps me curb my instant gratification shopping. I also keep a "to read" wish list that I add any books I hear about when reading blogs/ articles/etc, a list for each of my kids, and a book list for them too.

Micro kickboard mini scooters are great for 3 year olds! Or similar easy to use 3-wheeled scooters. They help develop balance and I have yet to meet a kid who doesn't like scooting (note- it took my LO a while to really pick it up but she is on the later end of gross motor skill development). A balance bike might also be a good option, but seems to take a bit more skill/ gross motor skills. Or a play kitchen (indoor), mud kitchen/ workbench (outdoor) are great for that age as they really start to get into pretend play.

Re: 45. Wish List — JTM Writes

Jenny — Fri, 08 Nov 2019 11:58:09 -0000

3 is a great age for a bike/balance bike, but honestly our micro scooter gets WAY! more use! We've put his bike in the basement because it is never chosen over the scooter. This is the brand we have, and I think the specific model, but I don't know for sure. https://www.microkickboard....